Confidence vs. Meanness

Does confidence come with meanness? Are they essentially one in the same? Why does it seem that people who are self confident are also rude, selfish and for lack of a more sophisticated term - mean? Even my ownself, who is described by others as sweet and too kind find that as I gain confidence at times, I loose my never-ending kindness. So my question is to be confident - does it come with other less negative qualities?

SETTLING IN

Well, we finished moving everything in Sunday night. What a chore! My goodness....if I don't have to move again for 5 years, it will be too soon!!! I love our new place. We are only about 3/4 unpacked and it already feels like home. Brian loves the neighborhood. It is such a tightnit little group. I am so far enjoying it thoroughly.
I need to finish unpacking all of the odds and ends, but I have NO motivation!!! I am so tired. Between moving and work, I just want to lay on the couch and not move! LOL We don't have TV until tomorrow, so of course Brian is occupying himself in the garage. Well, that is all for now, but we are planning to have a housewarming party in April. Details to follow.

No pain no gain is garbage.....

To an extent, I believe the saying no pain means no gain (like with exercising), but when you are talking about an issue like pushing through the pain on my injured foot....I feel the opposite is true. I pushed through what I could of my foot pain today, trying to get stuff packed and moved and now I am in absolutely horrible pain. I really hope with a night's rest I will be ok; otherwise, it is bad news bears tomorrow. We have a full day of moving tomorrow. And I have a full work week ahead of me. It also doesn't help that it has suddenly gotten cold again, which makes my the joint in my ankle feel like it is going to crack. Ok, well, enough of my complaining session.....off to finish dinner.

GETTING A MOVE ON.....

Well, it is Saturday morning. My company has left and we are about 1/3 of the way into moving our stuff over to the new house. We have odds and ends packed and ready to go, but we have a long way to go. It is amazing....no matter how much you try to prepare for moving, you are never ready. We will be moving most of the smaller stuff today. Tomorrow will be all of the furniture and hopefully, we will be spending our first night in the new house tomorrow.

SICKNESS MESSES EVERYTHING UP

I have been getting sick the past two days, which basically means every part of my body hurts and I barely have enough energy to shower. It really sucks because not only do I normal life to live, but I have visitors and I am supposed to be getting ready to move. Grrrrrrr.

New Look

My friend Becky created my new look for my page and I love it!!! I think it is funny that she picked that picture because even though you can't see a lot of my face, it is a picture that makes me happy. LOL. Anyway, isn't she so creative? You have to check out her blog and see all of her fun stuff. Look under my link for "Becky and Tessa's blog". THANK YOU

VISITORS

My sister and her boyfriend, Adam, are here from FL for a whole week! There is so much to see here, but unfortunately not everything is cheap. I hope they have fun while they are here and we can find enough stuff to entertain them with the little money we have. It is nice to have visitors, but all my visitors come at strange times, etiher while I am moving or have no money or am living in corporate housing, etc. LOL Oh well - it is always fun!

Do you know about Love?

So a very good question was posed to me today - "How do you know when you really love someone?" I am sure it is something we have all thought about at some point in time, and I think the answer is probably based on what point of your own life you are in. By that I mean if you have kids, you base it on unconditional love; if you are in a good relationship or a bad, you base it on that; if you are speaking to family, you base it on the obvious - you just do.
But then I thought is that really a sufficient answer? The most frequent answer people give is you just "know". Well if someone is asking you "how do you know" then they apparently it is not that easy for them. And I would say it is not fair to give them that answer. Some people might not know; there are times I thought I knew and in hindsight, I didn't.
So is that the answer? Do you only know in hindsight how much you loved someone? Do you not know til they are gone or you have something better? Now remember this can apply to not only relationships but also family, friends. There are different kinds of love so I suppose the answer would vary depending on their frame of reference. Is it possible then that no one really knows? How can you clearly define that when so much goes into the answer - e.g. emotions, other parts of life like work and money, the object of your "love" and their behavior.
So, my question is - what is your answer on this? If someone asked you that, what would you say? Thoughts thoughts?! Comments please......

Since when did friendship become a job?

I have always thought of friendship as one of life's greatest things. Next to God and (most) family, there is nothing better than a great friend. But as I was talking to one of my friend's today {we were discussing an issue she has with a different friend} and reviewing things going on in my own life, I realized a few things.
People think that you have to qualify in some sort of way to be their friend and that you have to keep up certain standards to stay there. Now if we were talking qualities like "kindness, humor, etc.," I might agree, but since when you have to make enough money or have a certain job to be someone's friend? Since when you have to do what they say or not be yourself to be someone's friend? Doesn't classifing people from your frienship get left at the playground in kindergarten? No it doesn't and it is sad........ in fact, if we raise our children right, it shouldn't even happen then. I see it though, well into middle school, high school AND as a last result, you would hope it got left prior to entering the real world. But no, grown adults act childish even in their later friendships.
I think this applies to relationships as well too. If people had a common respect for others. If people treated their friends or lovers with the respect that they would give a stranger, life would be a lot better. How is it that you will hold the door open for a stanger at the bank, but yell at your wife to hurry up as the door closes in front of her? How is it that you don't even expect the bank to loan you money, but you don't give a friend what you owe them?
I don't know if you all are seeing my point here, but if you are reading this....I challenge you to treat each person in your life with a little extra respect....I have a feeling you will see that in a short time, it will go a long way.